Commentary on Argentine Tango

So, this poem was inspired by my love for the Argentine Tango.  This seasons Dancing with the Stars was sensational.  My favorite dance was always the Paso Doble until this season, now my favorite is the Argentine Tango.  It's so intense that I decided to use its inspiration to write this poem about the "relationship" I had with the guy the poem "Not Ready" is about.

I have quotes around relationship because it wasn't an official one, we were trying to figure out if we were on the same page or not.  We were not!  It took me 8 months to realize that my first impression of him "Not Ready" poem was correct and that he isn't the one for me.

So what's my valuable insight: go with your gut feeling.  It's probably gonna be right 99% of the time.  I'm still learning the concept and I'm 40 years old.  Wow!!! My true love is currently incognito but hopefully that will change within the next year, lol.

I realized that when you truly love someone, you don't find fault in what they do, you don't find things you can't tolerate.  You are willing to work with them wherever they are in their life.

I have got to mention the book "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" by Steve Harvey, helped me also in my decision to cease and desist this relationship.  Actions have got to match up with the words they speak.  So talking a good game but not having the game to back it up is a big eye opener.  Not going to sell myself short anymore.  Argentine Tango poem

Species Interaction - Parasitism, Commensalism, Mutualism: What relationship are you in?

I am working on week 7 of my Interactive Science class and I'm learning about species interactions.  And being that one of the topics I love to discuss are relationships, it dawn on me that we have been in relationships that are similar to what I'm learning.  So here are the basic definitions:

• Parasitism - self explanatory, parasites.  One gets all the benefits and the other gets all the harm.  The books example is a tape worm in a human being.  The tape worm gets the benefits, nutrients it needs from your body to survive.  This causes us to be depleted of our nutrients, makes us sick, and if not treated we'll die.  This sounds like most abusive relationships.
• Commensalism - One gets the benefits and the other is neutral.  This sounds like the place I work were supposedly you are all a team.  You each have different departments to work in but responsible for the whole section.  If for some reason a team member doesn't finish there area you take up the slack and you don't get recognition for it.  Instead you are rewarded as a team.  The slacker gets a free ride on the tails of his team members.
• Mutualism - Both get the benefits.  This is how I want my next relationship to be like.  So sick of the one-sided love affairs.

It's a scary thing trying to get back in the dating game.  You don't want to make the same mistakes of your past relationships and yet it keeps hovering.  Everyone you talk to talks a good game, but when it boils down to it, their talk is not the way they walk.  And why does it seem like they know to say exactly what you want to hear.  Time is my friend, it always reveals to me the truth.

I especially see that at work dealing with the X, just when you think things are flowing smoothly, that communication is getting better, time brings out the truth.  You once again get the reaffirmation of why you divorced in the first place.  The saying "time will tell" is no joke.  You just have to be patient, listen, and store what you hear and see.  Eventually you will either see consistencies or inconsistencies.

Here's a poem that shows that:  Older and Wiser